I believe the problem may be technique. Proper grip and stance should negate most of the felt recoil. I shoot both alloy and all steel .45s, and I really don't notice much of a difference. You may be becoming too focused on the recoil, and making it worse than it is. Try to focus on watching the front sight during the recoil arc. This will occupy your mind. The worst recoiling gun I own is an alloy .38spl w/ p+ rounds, but it is still quite controllable. If recoil is still a problem try replacing the stock grips with rubber grips.